xIt was my first time attending an NLP Leadership Summit. I only knew five people out of thirty, one being my husband/business partner, Steven Leeds. As I listened to the participants introduce themselves, all of whom had been involved in NLP for at least 15 years in the areas of training, research, writing and/or innovation, I was very impressed. I liked being part of an interesting and exciting group of NLPers who like me had made NLP their life. Michael Hall and Heidi Her
For many years I have been following John Gottman’s work on couples communication. One of my clients recently said, “Oh he’s your guru.” This may be true. I find that Gottman’s books, The Relationship Cure, 7 Principles of Making a Marriage Work and What Makes Love Last, to all have been helpful in my personal and professional life. So it was a delightful surprise when I discovered that my 90 year old mother had received a board game for her birthday and it was a Gottman boar
Since our children have been in their 20’s now for 9 years I have been wondering what does it meant to be a parent of adult children. I remember when I was pregnant, 29 and 26 years ago respectively, I read Dr. Spock, and then books about toddlers, and then eventually teenagers. However when it came to reading about parenting adult children I didn’t have any books to use as references. Now I have come across a website, www.david-freeman.org, that offers some very useful tips
Many clients and NLP students work on issues of self-control. They want to exercise more, choose healthy foods, have clean lungs (stop smoking), drink reasonably, keep their fingernails out of their mouth, keep their anger in check etc. In our NLP sessions and classes we work with the basic presupposition that we have all the resources we need to help ourselves create new habits- thoughts, behaviors and feelings. In the book, by Walter Mischel, The Marshmallow Test: Mastering
I was recently asked to be in a research study about the use of technology, in particular, using video conferencing when coaching. This invitation has got me thinking about my experience of the past three years using Skype and FaceTime with clients. Video conferencing (VC) has become a common way for coaches and clients to work together. What happened before VC? We have gone from the client lying on a couch in the psychoanalyst’s office, to sitting upright with the therapist
Whenever I lead clients into trance, I ask them to find a “safe place.” I will say something like, “This could be a place you have been to, wish you could go to, either imaginary or real. It could be from your childhood or in your current life.” Sometimes clients have said they don’t have a safe place, so they make it up. One client who had had a life filled with abuse, said that she was never safe. I encouraged her to make it up. She created a place she had never been to- a
In 1999 I interviewed for a job to acquire my clinical hours for my psychology requirements. As my potential boss interviewed me he asked, “Have you ever done radio?” I said, “No.” “Would you like to do radio?” “Sure,” I said. I got the job as a psychotherapist and I became a radio co-host for two years. After that Steven Leeds and I did some radio internet shows. The radio personality is one that I enjoy. I like the discussion, the back and forth, the ability to share on the
“Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” -Mahatma Gandhi V. How to think like an NLP Master To understand any model, you must first know its underlying assumptions. The NLP Basic Presuppos
Since 1986 both Steven Leeds and Rachel Hott have been leading Practitioner and Master Practitioner courses. We recently were asked questions about our training. Here are two that we thought we would share with our community. How is NLP different than other disciplines? There are several presuppositions in NLP to support understanding and respect of different models of the world. Participants learn early on that in order to get along with other we must first understand that e
I was the trainer for our recent Core Transformation weekend workshop. There were 12 participants attending, several of them had never attended a workshop before. Not just new to the NLP experience but new to the workshop process. Attending a workshop where you work on your issues requires courage and willingness to participate. I was moved to tears several times when I witnessed these students working deeply on their personal issues. In our NLP and Hypnosis courses there is
What Are You Waiting For?
How often have you said, or heard someone say, “I do better with deadlines.” Why is it when you have a goal, the only way you get it done is because it is due tomorrow.
In NLP we explore our subjective experience, our reality, by exploring the question of how do we do what we do. In essence NLP is about modeling excellence in all arenas. As we sat through Hurricane Sandy, both Steven and I, wondered why we get ourselves to do something, even when t
Rachel had the opportunity to present for the International Coach Federation (ICF) New York chapter in three venues in late September. She began with a live television show on Channel 56 with Terry Yoffe and discussed NLP. The very first question was, “What is NLP?” The next venue, two days later at a presentation to 60 members of the ICF-NY chapter and again answered the question, “What is NLP?” Lastly she was interviewed on the ICF coach radio show, and no surprise the firs
Anchors Away: Anchoring with NLP by Rachel Hott, Ph.D.
Source: Anchor Point Magazine Part I Welcome back to your Back to Basics article. This article will discuss anchors and the technique of anchoring. For those of you who have read Back to Basics before you know what to expect. All you have to do is see the title and boom, swish, bang you know whether you want to read a review of something you know or once knew. For you, the new comer to NLP, Anchor Point and now this Back
Blogging, blogging, blogging. “Everyone” is doing it. Or are they? Do you notice how “everyone” is distorting their reality “all the time” by using the word “everyone” or “everything” and they “never” stop? It’s the same with “never”, “all” or nobody”. “Nobody loves me” or “Everything is going wrong”, or “You NEVER listen to me”. What can you do about it? Well, if you are one of those people who “occasionally” use these words, then consider who or what you are specifically ta